How does affect dysregulation influence dissociation?
One of the core problems for the person with a dissociative disorder is affect dysregulation, or difficulty tolerating and regulating intense emotional experiences. This problem results in part from having had little opportunity to learn to soothe oneself or modulate feelings, due to growing up in an abusive or neglectful family, where parents did not teach these skills. Problems in affect regulation are compounded by the sudden intrusion of traumatic memories and the overwhelming emotions accompanying them (Metcalfe & Jacobs, 1996; Rauch, van der Kolk, Fisler, Alpert, Orr et al., 1996).
The inability to manage intense feelings may trigger a change in self-state from one prevailing mood to another. Depersonalization, derealization, amnesia and identity confusion can all be thought of as efforts at self-regulation when affect regulation fails. Each psychological adaptation changes the ability of the person to tolerate a particular emotion, such as feeling threatened. As a last alternative for an overwhelmed mind to escape from fear when there is no escape, a person may unconsciously adapt by believing, incorrectly, that they are somebody else. Becoming aware of this kind of fear is terrifying. Therein lies one of the central problems in treatment for a person with a dissociative disorder: “How do I learn to approach things I fear when to understand that I am afraid is itself frightening?” Skillful clinical approaches are required to help build confidence in a person’s ability to tolerate their feelings, learn, and grow as a person.
This means, DPd people have very low skills in regulating emotions, and since they need to do something with intense feelings, they deny them.
PS.: I re-read this post, and neet to modify my message here, and add my interpretation to it.
DP is not really YOUR last attempt in controlling your emotions, but your mind's way of telling you, "Stop worrying that much because I have limits.". Still, it is "your" reaction, but an automatic response from the subconscious mind, because your conscious, chosen ways of self-regulations (emotional control) failed (because you don't have good enough emotional skills), and your mind tells you to stop, because you're swallowing more than you can handle.
read this one: